My last suggestion to you is to believe in yourself. You are here at this conference to get help and reassurance from various experts. I am sure they have much to offer and I hope you will learn from them. Never forget that in one way you are more expert than any teacher, counsellor or psychiatrist you will ever meet. You are expert in knowing how it feels to have your life and your life blood wrapped up in a handicapped child, and to live with that investment twenty-four hours a day, every day of the year. That is very different from being a professional helper who deals with the problem for an hour a week, or an hour a day, or even six hours a day. We need professionals who can be detached and objective and sometimes we, as parents, need to learn some of that detachment of perspective. If ever the professional helpers get so detached that they forget the depth of our feelings, please feel free to remind them that you, too, have some expertise. Some years ago, I came across a book by a French psychoanalyst, Alfred Adler. In the first chapter of his book he wrote, "When parents come to me with a problem about their child and they tell me what they have been doing, my first response is to say, 'I think you're on the right track', because parents carry a heavy burden and they need all the support they can get." I wish I could meet that psychoanalyst and hug him and say,
"Thank you for understanding."
2. I want you to learn all you can from the professionals here or wherever you are. I might even agree with them that you need to change your behaviour in some ways. I do not want you to feel that you are stupid and worthless and that you are not doing anything right. If you do that, you won't be a good role model for your child. I want your child to be happy, but part of that will come about if your child sees you as parents who find life enjoyable and challenging. So - listen to the experts, but also trust yourself.
(i) What is the narrator's suggestion to the parents?
(ii) What kind of professionals do we need?
(iii) Explain: listen to the experts, but also trust yourself.
(iv) What is Alfred Adler's response when parents come to him with a problem?
(v) Find a word from the passage which has the same meaning as skilful.
(vi) Write the verb form of suggestion.
(vii) Find a word from the passage opposite in meaning to incompetent.
(viii) Write the noun form of remind.
(ix) I think you're on the right track. Who is the listener here?
(a) The narrator (b) The readers (c) The students (d) The parents
(x) Who is considered as more expert than any teacher, counsellor or psychiatrist?
(a) The parents (b) The analysts (c) The doctors (d) The narrator